Comfort

We are on vacation now with some other couples and it is great to be away and in a new environment. It definitely does the head some good to get out one's space and experience something different.

I've been thinking a lot about the idea of getting too comfortable. You can get too comfortable in many different ways and many different situations, but I think the real nemesis to long term relationships and especially marriages is creature comfort. Don't get me wrong, I love the comfort I receive from my relationship with M, the ritual, the sense of home etc. The kind of comfort I am talking about mostly is that of comfort within routine sexuality.

M and I have always had a great, thriving and passionate sexual relationship. However, over the many years we have now been married, the same old same old wasn't really cutting it. Obviously, anyone who is reading this blog is most likely saying 'That's super obvious...' as anyone reading this is inclined towards a D/S relationship. The interesting part to me was that we were not voluntarily giving up our D/S relationship, due to some physical/health circumstances we had to back away and have a regular relationship over the past year or so.

Anyway, because of our many stops and starts I have noticed that each time we begin again, it is somewhat challenging, definitely not comfortable, and we seem to grow by leaps and bounds. Usually I am a quick pick up, but for some reason, it has taken many years for the reality of this relationship to sink in. The reality that our relationship is far better off for having D/S but also to really understand the implications on our life.

The other night I felt like we had a major break through. I was at the computer drinking a glass of wine and M was sitting at my feet with his collar and leash on. After awhile of chatting I ordered him to disrobe. I began to question him in depth about his posting regarding sadism and his desire for harsher treatment. I realized for the first time he was able to verbalize his desire to me in a very articulate, heart felt way. M is very articulate, however he seems to use this blog and email has his main form of communication regarding his sexuality. That's fine, but there's nothing like a good heart to heart in real time to get the juices going.

Due to our conversation we had the most excellent evening - with a good portion of it leaving him hanging upside down completely restrained and in a good amount of pain.

Fantastic! I am officially here to give all you men hope that your respective 'vanilla' partners or future partners may be turned on to the FemDom lifestyle, clain it as their own and share that experience with you.